QUESTION OF THE DAY...
Now I know what the immediate response to this question is going to be so I ask you to look deeper than that first answer that pops into your head when responding to this topic.
If your significant other cheats, do you automatically end it and call it quits??? I'm always interested to see what people say when asked this b/c you never truly know what you will do until you are in the situation and people forget how strong feelings are. So with that being said, do you instantly call it quits if someone cheats??
Comments please
8 comments:
Women have been smart at this for years...When a man cheats she may be pissed, but she will eventually take him back...If she has his kids, and has bills with him, it makes financial sense to stick it out. But a man will dump his woman,go get anotha chick, which will piss her off and land him in child support court...I'm stickn it out...its cheaper to keep her.
Women say all the time how they won't take him back if he cheats & blah, blah, blah!! You never know until ur really in this situation!! With my last relationship... I didn't know for a long time, but when I found out it was like WHOA!!! (Now I wasn't perfect when I found out about his wrong doings but 2 wrongs don't make a right!!)
I continued to stay thru all his bs & lies. I knew what was goin on & I was well aware of it. All the proof was there but I just couldn't leave... I was thinking like I put damn near 4yrs into this relationship... We're gonna work this out!!!! It always doesn't work like that though. Females need to realize they can NEVER EVER force a man to do something he doesn't want to do, no matter what the situation is!!!
As far as me being cheated on again I won't put up with it... That's something I don't think I could deal. Its time consuming, and too much energy to put into someone who doesn't care about me or my feelings!!
I LOVE HARD AND MY LOVE RUNS DEEP. IF YOU CHEAT ON ME ONCE, IT’S A RAP!!! IF I LET YOU GET AWAY WITH IT THE FRIST TIME, CHANCES ARE YOU MAY DO IT AGAIN. I DON’T BELIEVE IN SECOND CHANCES (ANYMORE). THE LEVEL OF RESPECT AND TRUST THAT I HAD FOR YOU IS NOW GONE. BEING HURT ONCE IS TOO MUCH AND I CANT KEEP TAKING YOU BACK AND ALLOWING YOU TO KEEP HURTING ME OVER AND OVER BECAUSE YOU CANT KEEP YOUR DICK IN YOUR PANTS. THERE IS A REASON WHY MEN/WOMEN CHEAT. IT COULD BE THE RELATIONSHIP IS NOT GOING AS WELL, AND YOU FEEL LIKE YOU NEED TO GO ELSEWHERE FOR THE LOVE NOT GETTING AT HOME, IT COULD BE YOU THINK HE/SHE IS FINE AS HELL AND YOU JUST WANNA FUCK, OR YOU JUST WANT YOUR CAKE AND EAT IT TOO! SHIT, WHO KNOWS!... I PUT 150% INTO ALL REALTIONSHIPS I HAD TO KEEP IT TOGETHER AND TO MAKE IT WORK. SO IF YOU HAVE TO GO OUT AND CHEAT, BE A GOOD AT IT AND NOT GET CAUGHT. IF YOU GIVE ME “ANY” REASON THAT YOU ARE, IM BRINGING IT TO THE TABLE. I WOULD RATHER YOU TELL ME THIS RELATIONSHIP IS GOING NOWHERE, THAN YOU LYING AND CHEATING ON ME, JUST LET ME GO!!!, YEA IT’S GON HURT LIKE HELL , BUT I WOULD RESPECT YOU A LOT MORE. ITS JUST TOO MUCH STRESS! YEA MISS J ITS HARD TO LEAVE, BUT HOW MANY TIMES DO WE HAVE TO GET HURT AND OUR FEELING SHATTERED BEFORE WE ARE DONE?
Plan B I so agree with u!! I would rather a man to be real... I appreciate honesty more than anything!!! That's why I'm @ that point where if it happened now I can't deal with. There's no respect, the trust is gone, pretty much everything is out the window!!!
only thing i have to say about cheating is you can forgive but u can never forget. i am also a firm believer that if he cheats once, he'll do it as many times as he can get away with it, and this is why i will NEVER give a cheater a second chance.
AND this is how ppl catch aids. LOL.
honestly, its probably best to leave the relationship where it is, because the situation is going to come up again... and again... and again, no lie! i dont have the time or energy to be arguing with someone about some dumb bitch.... :-/
Every situation is different BUT from what happened in my last relationship... WHEW!!! You never know how crazy you are until somebody takes you there. That being said I have seen the monster in me and know that I cannot mentally, spiritually, and emotionally handle cheating. Don't get me wrong when he cheated, I did the same thing and it didn't make me feel any better.
My question is... if you know there is a sista you are digging so hard that you have to see how it is with her why can't you sit me down and let me know? Yea, I'll be pissed but it'll be a quiet pissed compared to the screaming rage I'll be in if I have to find out on my own after asking you for the truth.
I can't do it again so as a single woman with the option to leave without lawyers and what not... I'm out.
This is a tough one, because like Mi$$ J. said, you never know until you're in that situation. If I were cheated on I would have so many questions and I wouldn't be able to trust the man with his answers, so I guess I'd call it quits. Trust is so MAJOR for relationships. I'd rather you tell me you don't want me anymore and let than cheat.
It depends on the relationship. Marriage, I'll probably stay. Kids, I might stay. No ring and no rugrats, I'd have to look at the years invested. No ring, no rugrats, no years, HELL NAW, I'm not staying.
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