THAT'S JUST MY BABY DADDY...
~DISCLAIMER~ Not all women fall into this category and not all bm's fall into this category. But the ones that do , you know who we talkin about....
Looking at the situation that 50 is going through with his bm and talkin to my guy in the NFL... WOMEN ARE SOME BITTER BEINGS!! We all know its cheaper to keep her (that might be the truest thing ever wrote) but it's women trying to get over on everyday average Joe's out here as well as celebrities and athletes. I know guys that take care of their kids and just b/c they don't want the girl, the girl sees to it and goes out of her way to make the guys life a living hell.
So the question we pose to the female readers is; Why are women like that? What is gained from spending the rest of your days making somebody else's life hell and yours too? Why not move on with your life and just have a working relationship when it comes to the child? Maybe it's b/c they realized their life is effed up, maybe cuz its the only way they stay relevant to some one, or maybe it's b/c they ain't sh*t to begin with and it ain't gon be sh*t to end with...
Comments are welcome...
17 comments:
one female reader said...
"my opinion is you have to know the relationship and how the men treated the women some are bitter. but on the other hand some women are just crazy and don't want any woman to have the man if they can't and sometimes use the kids. that is why you have to be careful who you sleep with and who you get pregnantbut sometimes people change and that is true as well."
a 'baby daddy'... not quite sure WHY a woman would want to be contribute to the statistics, but i know a lot of women who say they got knocked up on purpose. now, i'm not too familiar with 50's situation, but in many cases, turning a 'man' into a 'baby daddy' is a trap... or a creatively mastered plan... also known as a 'KEEP-A-NIGGA BABY.'
i don't understand the concept of trying to 'trap' a man in an unwanted relationship and ALL WOMEN ARE NOT LIKE THIS. their initial intention isn't to make the man's life a living hell, but they feel that by sharing a child, it might bring their relationship closer. give the man a reason to stay or at least MAKE the man have to be in their life some way, shape, or form for the next 18yrs!
sometimes, IF carefully planned, a woman will succeed in making her 'fantacy life' come true as she now has her man, a baby, and a new family... however, most cases don't happen that way and it just ends up as a 'baby mama/baby daddy' relationship... PERIOD... and THAT'S when the woman wants to go out of their way to make the guys life a living hell!
Well the problem is that the woman was not sh*** to begin with. I feel that women that use the child to try and get to a man are really sad insecure beings and they make it bad for real women because men start to think that all women are like this. To all the women if the man does not want you Let it Go if he is taking care of his child than you should at least have a decent relationship with him. This does not mean that he should take care of your grown a** get out and get your own and stop trying to use men that actually do for their children. It is nothing like having your own so stop being lazy and do something with yourself. If he is not taking care of the child you cannot make him so you still need to let it go cause you cannot make him. On the other hand to the males you need to make better dating decisions, the problem with men is that they sometimes think with the wrong head and this causes problem. Just because a woman is "thick or fine" to you does not mean that she has the common sense that is needed when to raise a child. In order to have a working relationship with someone you need to have an actually relationship to begin with and it is sad that alot of women (I have to use women cause I am not a male and do not know their way of thinking) do not know the difference between being a booty call and being in a relationship. Men and Women need to get it together because the lives of the future are being affected by all this nonsense.
to expand the topic a lil bit... i don't like when women talk down to the man's kids about him... you may have all kinds of issues with the father and that's cool but KIDS SHOULD NEVER BE BROUGHT INTO THE MIDDLE of yall shit! So for women and men that do that, I can't even honor that shit at all!!
This comment is to Taryn.
Sometimes relationships don't work it is a part of life. I have three children and to be honest I hate the term baby momma it is ghetto to me and as far as trying to trap a man with kids I was not on that hey we had plans but they did not wor everyone is not trying to trap a man when they have kids but I believe in taking responsiblity for my actions. Don't get it twisted I do it alone and I do a damn good job. Not all women try to make the man's life a living hell and sometimes it is the other way around. What do you think about the men that try to make the woman's life a living hell. Your can still have the life you wanted with kids every situation is different it is all about the mentality of the woman all women that have children are not the same just like all men are not the same.
We all need to be more choosey about who we choose to mix our DNA with! Women who trap are wrong, and I don't feel sorry for the men that it happens to. He had a choice in letting that happen just how she chose to do it!
Eveyrone needs to think more about the future than the right now...The next time you have sex, before it happens ask yourself, "Am I willing to have a child with this person? Am I willing to possible contract a deadly desease? Am I willing to accept that they might not want me after we have sex?" Those few moments in time will shape the rest of your life.
As the BET line goes, wrap it up...
I'm with Denise... if you a booty call don't expect to be a family after you pee on the stick and get a lil plus sign(+).
LMFAO!!!!
I reserve judgement on this subject! LMAO!!!!
Nah... but in all honesty we are all grown here... sometimes, its nothing more than a sexual relationship some women/men expect more from it. So then you have the "if I can't have you nobody can" thing, Thats how things become ugly. Sometimes women set themselves up to be let down, like previously stated... if you 2 just had a sexual relationship, you can't expect a happy family with a nice house and white picket fence because you have a man's baby. It is 2008.. ain't shit sweet and life damn sure ain't perfect! Be realistic with yourself, accept it for what it is and make the best of the situation. And talking bad about the father because things didnt go the way you wanted them is wrong like Penn stated. My pops bailed on my mom when she was pregnant with me and they were in a "loving relationship" but not once has she ever said anything bad about that man to me. She let me make my own perceptions of him. In short, it's a case of living in a fantasy world, and expecting reality to be like the Cosby show when in fact Reality is more like the show with Duane Martin and Lisa Ray.... accept it for what it is, and try to come to common ground for the baby's sake! cause damnit thats whos affected... it could get to the point where a man doesn't wanna come around cause of the woman sometimes as well as the woman won't want to bring her child around cause of the man... GET IT TOGETHER PEOPLE!!!!
Reply for Denise:
Let me begin by saying that I also agree with the ‘booty call’ statement. Women should know their place in a relationship, and what often differentiates your ‘baby’s father’ from your ‘baby daddy’ is the type and length of the relationship. Can you really turn a ‘hoe’ into a house wife?
I understand that all relationships do not work out, and I clearly stated that not all women who have ‘baby daddys’ DO NOT have the same MO. Not all women had babies to try to imprison or trap their man in a relationship, but it does happen and in turn they become included in the statistics of unmarried, African-American parents.
Don’t get me wrong, there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with having children. Children are a blessing. Over five million women are infertile and don’t have the luxury of baring children. And coming from a single-parent family, I sure as hell am not saying single women don’t have the ability to raise their kids on their own AND do a hell of a job.
1st of I picked the right baby daddy & the wrong boyfriend! I don't agree with everything my kids father does (but who ever does?) but he is an awesome father! sucky boyfriend! 2nd) LEACH women are like men THERE IS NOT A DIFFERENCE. how many bums lay up with they b.m. with no job? LIGHT BULB?!?!?! so the fact that a millionaires baby mama wants her cheese and crackers is no surprise! 3rd) me? personally i aint into three*somes..i made my kids with they daddy and not the judge..so i keep the laws out of it (ex. child support)! BUT DEAR BABY DADDIEZ stop making life with these alley-katz and maybe u wont have to worry! IN CONCLUSION HELLA DUDES DO WOMEN THE SAME WAY!
DENISE TOOK THE WORDS RIGHT OUT OF MY MOUTH!!!! FOR THE MOST PART...
THAT'S WHY I HAVEN'T HAD ANOTHER CHILD IN 8 YEARS!! I HAVE LEARNED FROM MY MISTAKES, BUT MY CHILD IS A BLESSING!!! WE ALL HAVE TO BE CAREFUL WITH WHO WE CHOOSE TO LAY DOWN WITH....SOME PEOPLE DONT HAVE PARENTING SKILLS OR DONT HOW TO CO-PARENT
FOR EX: I HATE IT WHEN A WOMAN SAYS "DONT HAVE MY BABY AROUND THAT BITCH!" OOOOOOOO!!!THAT BURNS ME UP!!! THAT NOT COOL AT ALL. STOP BEING SO BITTER, JUST MOVE ON! QUIET AS KEPT SHE MAY BE A BETTER PARENT THAN YOU ARE TO BEGIN WITH AND IF SHE THE WIFE/GIRLFRIEND THEN SHE JUST GON HAVE TO DEAL WITH IT. GET JOINT CUSTODY, IF IT GOES THAT FAR.
MY DAUGHTERS FATHER IS GETTING MARRIED BUT THAT DONT MEAN IMA GO CONTEST THEIR MARRIGE, IM HAPPY FOR THEM! IVE MOVED ON, QUIETLY!LOL AND HE HAS NEVER HAD ANY PROBLEMS WITH ME TO THIS DAY!
MY HEART GOES OUT TO THE KIDS, THEY WERE NEVER ASKED TO BE HERE!
STAND UP ON YOUR OWN, SINGLE MOTHERS/FATHERS, YOU/WE MADE THAT CHOICE!
My post may piss some women off but hey its my opinion!!!
MAJORITY OF BABY MAMAS ARE SOME BITTER BITCHES!! (not all of you) Just the ones I have came across anyway... By the way pardon my french!! That's why I vow not to become a baby's mama I can't go!!
Back to the subject, I absolutely can't stand how extra they are. BABY MAMAS ARE MY PET PEEVE, no joke.
Its like you have a child to take care of instead of worrying about what ur child's father is doing and why he doesn't want you!! There is no reason why the child should suffer the consequences of not having a relationship with their father because their mother can't control her actions!! If the baby mama can't learn to accept that, then its her problem not his!! She needs to find a way within herself to deal with it.
The harder she tries to cause friction in the childs father life the situation will not change, its only gonna make it worse!! So why go out of your way to make yourself look like a complete fool?
I can't stand women who try to use a child to keep a guy, havent you women learned anything by now? That ish doesn't work because if he wanted you he would have been with you from the start!!
I understand that everybody's situation is different but in most cases the baby mama & the child's father never had a relationship to begin with. So when u have that child don't expect things to change!! Stop using the child as an excuse to be closer to him. Be a woman, grown up, move on with your life, and do what it takes to take care of your child. The child should be ur #1 priority nothing else should matter!!!!
There's so much I could say about this topic but I won't continue... Maybe I should read the other posts now... Lol
Wow... I'm late with the comments again but somethings are worth waiting for....
Some of you need to stop Baby mama bashing... I Know I Know Not all baby mamas are as cool as me ...LOL Nah 4 Real I am ;) And I thank God me and my kids fathers get along nicely and co-parent together quite well....It aint easy but thats what happens when you work together.....
But you can never be on the outside looking in and judge correctly...(Maybe Toya threw a brick through Dwayne's car window cuz she didn't know he had another woman when she got pregnant??? ) Maybe she is bitter cuz he don't want her??? Or maybe he ain't trying to see the baby or pay child support??? ...Whos to say...Every situation is different....But one things for sure no woman should use her child as a pawn to try to trap a man.
And if a man trully wants to see his child and have part in that childs life ....Nothing will stop him ...There are too many laws to protect crazyness like that from happening...He can get visitations and specify if she does anything crazy to him especially around the child that she can be in voilation of the law....And his love for his child should give him strength to take that shit to court!!!
Some men complain about their baby mama to shift the blame...They ain't doing nothing for the child so they claim the woman wont let him see the baby... what else is he gonna tell the new girl I ain't trying to be no daddy???
After my divorce the first guy I dated talked so much shit about his baby mama that I thought she was crazy!!! But just so happened my girlfriend knew him and his baby mama and said the mama was actaually a hard worker a good mother and a kind person and he was the dead beat and in time it showed ( I kicked his ass to the curb!!!)
So mamas & daddys if you wrong you wrong....But get it right for the sake of the future of YOUR seed!
A child is your blessing from GOD even if you bad ass was sinning when you made it! LOL ( God know I be Playing) LOL
I'VE READ ALL THE COMMENTS... I AGREE WITH PENN, RACH, MARK, & TARYN.
WHEN ITS ALL SAID AND DONE KNOW UR PLACE IN A RELATIONSHIP... IF THERE ISN'T ONE REALIZE WHAT IT BOILS DOWN 2!!! MEN/WOMEN SHOULDN'T STEP OVER THEIR BOUNDARIES!!!
LOL...Its always somebody on the outside lookin in giving their two cents on what they think they know....But I agree wih Miss J ... Know Your Place...
Raising a child is a important duty in life...I know I'm a Parent... Both Parents and or Step Parents Should do everything in their power to be Mature when handling a Baby mama Baby daddy situation....
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